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This is a good example of why reading you is essential.

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Thanks. I love you and feel the same way about your stack.

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I started a list of favorite lines then gave up at, like, "Mary." These are some of the most exquisitely delineated, multivalent perceptions I've ever read. Your Zoom yesterday was so rich that I soon realized I'd be doing well just to get my bearings. I have your next Zoom on my calendar. Thank you, Mary.

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I just burst out laughing, Mary.

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you help me too, with these posts. so many gems all the time! all these little bursts of delight and recognition.

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I'm so happy you feel this way. You are part of our world big time. xxL

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Love the way your mind works. And with you on the social cues. Going to be thinking a lot about friendships now, especially one that seems to be cooling on me quite suddenly after more than 40 years.

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Wow, very hard.

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Feb 24Edited

We must be on some kind of movie sync-up. I watched "Flow" this weekend (also loved it, I personally aspire to be the Capybara), and while I've actually never seen "The Boys In The Band", last night I watched a YouTube video essay on the protests behind "Cruising", another William Friedkin queer-adjacent film, where "Boys" was also discussed. You'd like the journalist behind this YouTube essay. His name is Matt Baume. I have no idea if you do YouTube things at all, especially long-form YouTube things, but you and Matt are kindred spirits. Also the Village Voice is much discussed!

Thanks as usual for helping to contextualize what is happening right now, politically, with the fights of the past. It's much needed.

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Thanks!

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“In some of the understandings, this friend was just a giant, critical shit. In some of the understandings, the reasons she had cooled on me were entirely owing to my rotten disposition, and these reasons filled me with hope. If the failure was mine, I could go into the mine of my rotten disposition with a pick and an ax and dig around as long as the beams didn’t collapse.” Oh, such glorious writing! It takes us down into the mine of our mind, hacking away at our own memories. What a fabulous trip you are! Writing is a love letter, and yours are the best.

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Thanks, love. The love letter from solves so much.

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What a wonderful essay!

Your thoughts on the evolution of friendships are, well, just beautiful.

"Yes" on the importance of appropriately sharp knives. I have an antique whetstone used so much that it is no longer flat.

Have added "Flow" to my watchlist.

For those wondering, the original 1970 Boys in the Band is available for rent on Prime, and the 2020 remake is streaming on Netflix.

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Thanks, great.

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Love this as much as I love a sharp knife.

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Oh, Mary!

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Great

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I really enjoyed this one. I relate to your difficulty in observing social clues. Also, I love the word "rotten."

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Long as it's not expensive and I don't even have to tell you what I'm referring to! xo

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Oy, everything I order is not what the video shows! This one is "The Ordinary."

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Best thing about it? Price. xo

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Oh, sorry to hear. No use?

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Probably good moisturizing...

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I have never been right about buying a product from a video. I just got another company to refund the charge on my credit card because what they sent was useless.

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L -- we'd all be SO RICH if we could get refunds on beauty products that don't deliver on promises! xo

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